Facebook Knows your Friends Don’t Actually Care About You

Facebook’s algorithm has been in the news lately as congress has been investigating it for “stoking division” in order to boost profits. Facebook’s algorithm is utter crap, but not for the reasons people talk about in the news.


I remember the feeling I got when Facebook turned on their algorithmic news feed 12+ years ago. It was a feeling of utter dread. Immediately, the day of it’s implementation, I was cut off from the world. Facebook started showing people feeds of things they cared about, and it was immediately clear that people just didn’t care about me. My social interactions on Facebook went down to nearly zero on day one… and I was frankly terrified.

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Save the Princess! My Story of Gaslighting, Borderline Personality Disorder, and the Guru-Disciple relationship

Look I’m computer nerd, not a Jonny Quarterback. Love doesn’t come my way often. Therefore, I am embarrassed to admit that I am easily gullible when I perceive someone to love me. To be a victim of your own love for someone is horrible and cruel, yet despite the covert, psychological abuse I was subjected to, I very much love every inch of this person to this day (hopefully it will fade in time). So I’m going to tell a difficult long story… but it is just a tiny piece skimming 3 months of a time 10 years ago. It was so emotionally extreme and bizarre that I wrote a book about it which is nearing it’s final revision. This blog post will barely cover one chapter of the book.

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